Someone very close and special has undergone major, life-saving surgery and now has a huge recovery ahead and must use a colostomy bag (at least for a while). I’ve offered to come out and see him, to stay there and help, but he says he wants to be alone and “withdraw inside myself”. I’m not sure if he’s simply depressed, embarrassed about the colostomy bag, sick of me and my concern, or if this is his way of healing. He is far from any family and doesn’t have “reliable’ friends in the area. I’m wondering if I should just go out there anyway and stay at a hotel and just say “I’m here if you need me,” or if I should respect his request for being alone. Thank you.
